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DATING VIDEOS – written by Tanis Harms
TOPIC: purity, dating
SCRIPTURE: Matt. 15:19; Mark 7:20-23; 2 Cor.6:14-18;
Style: drama/conversation: people take turns
. enacting dating videos of what
. their hopes and expectations are
Cast: WOMEN 1-4, MEN 1-4 (any age, can reword
. if you don’t have enough men or women)
Set & Props: stool; each person looks out
. to the congregation as if they
. are the camera or monitor
(WOMAN 1 enters and sits on the stool.)
W 1 Hi, I’m Wendy Sullivan, and
. this is my NON-dating – dating video.
. I am actually NOT looking for someone,
. because I never want to become desperate.
. Getting desperate can cause a person to rush
. into some something stupid. This does not mean
. that I never want to get married.
. I just want to get married – IF and WHEN -
. the right person comes along.
. I can see from people around me
. that marriage is difficult enough,
. so I would rather be single and content,
. than be in a difficult and unhappy marriage.
(WOMAN 1 exits. MAN 1 enters and sits on stool.)
M 1 What am I looking for in a girlfriend and
. future wife? I am looking for someone
. who will be there for me as a best friend
. and a partner – who will work with me –
. not against me. This involves respect.
. Yes, I hope that she will respect me,
. but I know I will have to respect her.
. That should be practiced while we date.
. And practicing respect should actually begin –
. even BEFORE I meet her. Respect for myself
. and other people - needs to begin right now.
(MAN 1 exits. WOMAN 2 enters and sits on stool.)
W 2 I figure I’m too young to date. I don’t 2
. even know what I want out of life for myself,
. so - why would I want to involve someone else
. in all that confusion. Why create all that drama?
. And, like, what if I started dating someone
. who wanted to become a farmer, but later on
. I discover that I really hate country life.
. You see, there are so many things
. that I still need to learn about myself.
. So for now, I would love to just hang out with
. lots of friends. And in order to marry someone
. who was my best friend – we kind of
. first have to become friends – don’t we?
(WOMAN 2 exits. MAN 2 enters and sits on stool.)
M 2 Some people might think it’s cool - or necessary -
. to get physical while in a dating relationship,
. but I am confident enough to know
. that this is not a brilliant idea.
. One thing always leads to another.
. Saving oneself for marriage
. takes a lot of strength and self-control.
. Some might say, “But we’re only human...”
. Exactly! So why put yourself
. in a place of temptation.
. Think of it this way - I am staying faithful
. to my future wife - even before I know who she is.
. And even when you think a relationship might
. be serious, you never know what could happen.
. What if you break up before you get married?
. Then you’ve already cheated on your future wife.
(MAN 2 exits. WOMAN 3 enters and sits on stool.)
W 3 I definitely want to marry another believer.
. What you see is usually what you get.
. So the things that I find most important –
. THAT is what we need to have in common.
. If that person put WORK ahead of everything,
. then the marriage would certainly come in second.
. And - it would be scary - if my husband
. put me first and up on a pedestal.
. I am only human and will make mistakes,
. so that’s a lot of pressure.
. But if we BOTH put God first in our lives,
. God would be our pillar of strength
. and our foundation of faith and love.
. Then, as we both continue to draw closer to God,
. we would always be drawing closer to each other.
(WOMAN 3 exits. MAN 3 enters and sits on stool.)
M 3 Yes, opposites attract – but those things should
. be more like characteristics, or perhaps talents.
. Like if I’m not a good cook – I sure hope she is.
. And if I have a talent at knowing how to choose
. a good direction to take, and she has the talent
. of seeing the details around that – we would make
. an excellent team. So while I am dating someone,
. THESE are the things I’d like to figure out -
. to see if we’d actually make a good team.
(MAN 3 exits. WOMAN 4 enters and sits on stool.)
W 4 Love is blind? Only after getting physical!
. Then your logical thinking goes right out
. the window. That’s why you should wait
. until marriage, because THEN- it really is– until
. death do you part. THEN you want to be blind,
. so you can overlook all the little issues.
. But while you are dating, you want to keep your
. thinking clear. You want to make sure you get
. to know the person, for who they really are.
. You want to know all the little issues before
. marriage – to see if you can even tolerate them.
. To do this – you need to keep your eyesight.
. You have to be able to discern things - like -
. if a guy pressures me to do something
. that we shouldn’t do, I need to realize
. that he’s not being respectful. And if that’s
. what I have to do to keep him as a boyfriend –
. then he’s definitely not worth keeping.
. If a guy cannot control himself while dating,
. HOW do I know I can trust him once we’re married?
(WOMAN 4 exits. MAN 4 enters and sits on stool.)
M 4 What do women want? It can be so confusing.
. So I figure - I just need to be myself. I should
. not have to pretend to be something I am not –
. in order to impress anyone. And I’d also want
. a girlfriend to be herself. I really don’t want
. any surprises later. And while I’m waiting for
. the right person to date, I need to be working on
. being the right person for HER to date. I need
. to work on being the person that I should be –
. not just for my future spouse – I need to be
. doing that for myself – in order to bring honor
. to God in ALL that I do.